I have been saying this gazillions of times – words are powerful, yet it seems like we don’t have control over what our tongues are capable of.
James 3:8 … but no human being can tame the tongue. It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison.
Despite how small the tongue is – it can be compared to that small rudder that takes control of a huge ship. The tongue might be small but it could be as sharp as a knife, or as gentle as the spring breeze. Hurtful words can cause a forest fire, but gentle words can bring dreams back to life.
If hurtful words are released we can destroy the ones that we love. After we have said what we felt, we immediately have this sense of regret, and no matter how hard we try to get back what we said it’s just too late.
So how do we tame our tongues?
1. Think before you speak
This one is really hard for me especially if I feel like I should give the person a piece of my mind. One thing that I have learned from personal experience is that we should not let our emotions get the best of us. When the storm has passed speak to the other person calmly and rationally. Perhaps after the argument you might just laugh about what happened and think – imagine if I said that we would have been both scarred for life!
You might also want to ask your self this question.
2. Ask for the gift of self-control
If you can’t say something nice, don’t say nothing at all. It’s hard to think before you speak especially if you don’t have self-control. We can’t make our tongues behave on our own strength. The more we strive on our own, the more we fail. We need the Holy Spirit’s guidance and presence for self-control. Start the day with prayer and ask for self-control’s presence to manifest in your life.
3. Immediately Ask for Forgiveness
Don’t wait for a millennium to pass by without saying sorry. Say sorry genuinely not because you just want to say sorry for the sake of it, but say sorry because you really mean it.
Posting this does not mean I’m an expert of taming my tongue. Well, I’m not. The reason why I’m sharing this is because I don’t want other people to make the same mistake as I did. My experience with my uncontrollable tongue has led me to a life of restless nights and a scarred relationship.
Though the crack is there, I can only rely on God’s deliverance for my relationship to be redeemed. And the experience has led me to realize that my tongue needs to be tamed.